Mother’s Day Is a Heavy Day

Mother’s Day is a complicated one.   I am a mother: bio, foster, adoptive.  I have an amazing mother…by legal paper.  I was birthed by a mother that started with good intentions. I lived in the foster care system with many temporary mothers.

I have so much to be thankful for and I genuinely am.

But Mother’s Day is a heavy load.

As I skim through social media, check ins, and friend-hellos, I see so many beautiful photos of mamas and mentors. Yet, as often as I see those I also see many expressions of heavy emotions.

• I grieve for longing adults who wished to be called a mother.
• I emphasize with yearning hearts that desire the cliché mother.
• I breath for angry faces of lives that deserved a mother.
• I see exhausted tones from those who try (or tried) to be a mother.
• I feel grieving tears from those who’ve lost a mother.
• I relate to the mixed emotions of guilt from those who are mothers.
• I hear tired tones from those who care for a mothe.
• I see the self-inflected pressures of accepting a “holiday” day that raises emotions that carry no words.

This year, don’t carry the weight of Mother’s Day alone!

• Go with a friend on a beautiful outside, adventure.
• Write a letter to someone you care about (or yourself).
• Reserve a “mother’s day special” for yourself.
• Turn off your social media.
• Spend time with special people, animals, friends in your life.
• Watch a comedy.
• Explore a new place in person or virtual.
• Set 2 new short-term and 2 long-term goals for yourself.
• Be confident in saying “no” or “yes” to what you want to do.

 Remember that though “mother” is a noun; the love they show is an action. 

Share love.  Love one another.  Love through Mother’s Day.

“A woman who honors the Lord deserves to be praised…”  Proverbs 31:30-31